Divorce or the breakup of a significant relationship is one of the most life stressing events that you can experience, whether you wanted it or not.
Breakups often have you doubting and second-guessing every part of your life.
You beat yourself up for decisions made in the past.
You are petrified of your now unstable future.
And, your present moment is overwhelmed with sadness, fear, and despair.
While I’m not going to claim that it is easy to get over a breakup or divorce, there are 3 things that you can do Today to help you get through it.
Because today is all you can and need to focus on.
Accept that the breakup is happening
Even if that means accepting is just for today.
Resistance causes stress as it feeds your fear and anxiety, often manifesting as a headache, tightness in your chest, or the feeling of just being punched in the gut.
By accepting and surrendering to your breakup, you gain the freedom to be in the present moment, which allows you to have access to choices that were previously unavailable to you.
Remember, there is wisdom to be gained from this experience. The acceptance of your breakup allows you to begin healing your heart, empowering you to evolve and let go of being a wounded victim of love.
Give yourself permission to grieve, rest, and re-energize.
You may not be able to keep up with all of your commitments right now. It’s okay to say, “No,” to people who ask for your time and energy.
Take time to focus on your needs right now.
Breakup is traumatic and it requires extra self-care and love. Give yourself the gift of getting a massage, taking a yoga class, or just getting some additional rest.
Don’t go it alone
There is often a great deal of shame that comes along with divorce or breakup, which leads to the desire to curl up in a ball and go into hiding.
However, isolation promotes anxiety. Feelings of “I am alone,” and “No one loves me,” can take hold and run wild when you isolate yourself.
Sharing your feelings can help get you through this deep pain. Seek out a trusted friend or family member and share your struggle. Consider joining a support group or reaching out to a therapist or coach.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help. You will find that people care and really want to support you.
You are not alone.
P.S. Please share this post with a friend or family member who is struggling with a divorce or breakup.
P.P.S. For additional support, contact me for a FREE Goodbye, Heartache. Hello Joy session. You don’t have to do this alone. I am here to support you every step of the way.