Conscious Uncoupling™ Certified Coach


2015 may have been one of your roughest years if you have experienced conflict or trauma in your relationship. And you may be so glad that it is over as a new year brings the opportunity to start fresh and look forward to new possibilities. So a big welcome to 2016!

Personally, I was pretty happy to close the door on 2015. But then I stumbled upon a post by Alanis Morissette that provided an opportunity to look back on what went right. And while our brains are trained to focus on what’s wrong, when we consciously choose to look for what what’s right, we usually find many things, which creates even more blessings and abundance.

Looking back:

As I scrolled through some of Alanis’ prompts, I realized that I had plenty of reasons to celebrate 2015.

I had opportunities to express my vulnerability and courage. Creating a website and sharing my divorce story was completely terrifying. While writing the pages for my site, I found myself wanting to just hide and give up on the project.

But I didn’t!

And I’ve heard from so many of you that my story has resonated and has been extremely helpful in navigating your own journey.

And while I experienced several painful family situations throughout the year, they enabled me to strengthen my ability to set healthy boundaries which felt really empowering.

I lovingly forgave myself and others and stepped up my self-care practice. No more putting everyone else first. I accepted responsibility for acknowledging my needs and then getting them met. While many will call that selfish, not doing so caused my inner voice to dim, leaving me feeling angry and resentful.

My nutrient intake went way up when I incorporated juicing and blending into my weekly routine. I feel more alive and energetic which helps my mood and creativity.

So no matter what you’ve been through in 2015, if you look back, you may see that it wasn’t all a messy pile of poop.

As you reflect on the past year, did you:

  • Muster up the courage to ask for a divorce?
  • Set boundaries where there were none?
  • Perhaps you finally acknowledged your needs. And then shared them.
  • Maybe you got yourself out of bed and met a friend for coffee even though you were reeling from the pain of betrayal.
  • Perhaps you went back to work after years of being out of the workforce while raising kids.

Give yourself a big hug because I know that none of these things were easy. But you did it. And you should feel proud.

Or, perhaps you are currently feeling stuck and in a state of confusion, not sure what to do next, but have acknowledged that you need to do something different.

That may not feel like much, but let me assure you, it is HUGE!

Awareness is the first step in creating a happier, healthier you.

Looking forward:

I set goals for myself, my family, and my business. I allowed myself to get excited about the unlimited possibilities that are available with positive thoughts, proper support, and most importantly, ACTION.

My theme for 2016 is connection. I realized that I feel most excited and energized when I am engaged with a client, friend or family member. I love to have deep, personal connections ignited with compassion and an open heart. It lights up my soul!

Transformational Action:

  • Get out your journal and reflect on your accomplishments in 2015. Don’t forget the small ones, they count, too!
  • What changes do you wish to make to live with more peace and love this year?
  • What action steps are you going to take to make it a reality?

Please share your dreams and desires in the comments below. I’d love to hear how you’re going to make 2016 your best year yet!

As always, if I can help support you in any way, please reach out. I’ve learned the hard way that trying to go it alone usually leaves you feeling stuck and frustrated.

With love and appreciation,

P.S. I will soon be creating a private Facebook group where we can share our relationship wins and struggles and receive support from a loving community. If you would like to become a member, please shoot me a message.

P.P.S. Click here if you would like to read Alanis’ post.